We are apparitions in each others' lives. I arise in other people's experience for a time. Later, their experience of me dissolves. It may arise and dissolve again, or it may not. The same is true for my experience of others.
I see at least three ways of appearing. In caricature:
- Chaotic. Doing things without regard for appearance, because there is no awareness of the fact or possibility of appearing. This may be threatening.
- Inoffensive. Deliberately avoiding being an upsetting appearance.
- Charming. Attempting in addition to be a good appearance.
- Spacious. Simply being, with the awareness of being an appearance.
Probably there's more to this that I'm missing.
I like the idea of being a charming apparition. I like the phrase. It's ghostly. It also reifies the appearing, which is not ideal. It would make a good meme, though, one with ghosts in it.